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Hello Again!

Jul 31, 2016 by

Hello Again!

As I’m sure you can see, the summer got away from me and I took some time off from the blog. Mostly because I traveled A LOT! (More on that to come!)  I wanted to appreciate each moment and not be caught behind my computer screen. I was able to spend some time with my grandparents, distract myself from hubby’s deployment and deal with some life changing things going on in our world.

So, this particular post has to be one of the most emotional and wonderful blogs I have EVER written…. because it’s about time we share our happy news with you.   This blog and its followers has become more than just a community of army wives and teachers, it has become an extension of my life. Your love, support, questions, worries, and shared frustrations have lifted my spirits so many times. You’ve supported me during some of the crazy heartbreak along this pathway to motherhood, and so–it is with overwhelming joy and tears streaming down my face that I get to tell you WE ARE GOING TO BE PARENTS!

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I want to close by saying thank you to all of you who have supported us (and me for so so soooo long). We love you guys and are so grateful to share this experience with you. I plan to recap the first trimester in a future blog post, to be able to share with you the ups and downs of pregnancy and all the emotions that go with pregnancy after miscarriage. But at the same time, I hope to remain sensitive to those of you who are still trying, and still waiting on motherhood. My prayers and thoughts are constantly with you, and I hope to be able to celebrate your joy in the very near future.

 

 

 

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Predeployment Lists

May 4, 2016 by

Predeployment Lists

As we prepare for hubby’s next trip, there are a million crappy things we have to do before he leaves.  When I say crappy what I mean is really, incredibly, freaking awful. I’ve talked about the angst leading up to deployment before, and how much this sucks. I’d like to tell you that it gets better with every trip, but the truth is, even knowing what to expect doesn’t make the process any easier.

Its uncomfortable thinking about all the what-ifs of things that may happen on deployment and the conversations are more than a little awkward. The bottom line however is that he’s a soldier and it’s his job. #armylife #marriage Click To Tweet

So as we update Power of Attorney and talk about writing our very first wills, we stumble through the ideas of mortality, and how delicate our life together really is. We talk about burial and cremation and the ever-after that we may not spend together. We discuss how lucky we are and how blessed our paths have been. I’m certain that he’ll be fine, and we’ll be fine and his next trip really isn’t all that dangerous, but there is always that lingering worry.  So we make the tedious phone calls to suspend insurance on the truck and enact auto-pay on bills I may forget. We call someone to come and mow the lawn and we reduce our cable bill because I won’t watch that much…and we check days off the calendar faster than we’d like. And I worry.  As the months before he leaves get shorter and shorter– the anxiety about him actually leaving starts to set in. But of course I usually put on my “I’ve totally got this” face and soldier on, because he feels better about it when I’m being brave. Sometimes though, that’s easier said than done.

Especially today, when my handsome soldier husband grabbed his ASUs, freshly embroidered with his new rank to take to work so that he could have an updated “hero photo” taken.  My heart hurts just to think about the necessity of such a photo.  If you’re unfamiliar with the term “hero photo” just imagine the photos that I’m sure you’ve seen before, the ones with the bright-eyed, youthful soldier in his dress uniform staring out from the giant frame…propped on an easel before a flag-draped casket.  Yup. Those photos. The ones that simply make a soul ache.

So instead of dwelling, I make lists. List of things to do before he leaves, lists of paperwork to gather, lists of things I will do to keep busy while he’s gone, lists of home improvement projects I can do without his help, lists of things I need him to accomplish as he packs… Lists and lists and lists, because lists give me piece of mind and purpose. Lists I can control, I can check things off, I can make progress.

I’ve already told him I’ll refuse to use that damn Hero Photo should anything happen to him anyway… I think one of him flipping the camera the bird would be much more appropriate.

Pray for us. <3


You can also check out these resources here if you are looking for a checklist of items you MUST do before deployment.

USAA offers a nice printable for you and your spouse

The National Military Family Association has also compiled a list of resources

Lastly, Pinterest never lets me down. Check out these ideas for creating a deployment binder!

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First steps for the newly engaged: Where to begin?

Mar 7, 2016 by

First steps for the newly engaged: Where to begin?

“We are officially engaged!!! Now what?”

When I received the long-awaited phone call this weekend from my dear friend announcing that she and her high school sweetheart were finally engaged I was jump-up-and-down excited. Her voice was happy on the phone when she was telling me her news and then shifted to nervous confusion when she added: “I don’t know what to do now”.

Oh,this is the simple part! And the fun part!

Step one:
Enjoy. Bask. Stare at your ring. Hold hands with your honey. Make diamond sparkles on the ceiling of the car as you drive. Take selfies. Imagine your honeymoon. Enjoy the moment. These early, blissful moments as you prepare to start the planning process are fleeting and rare and beautiful. Embrace them. Take a week or two and just let the idea of marriage simmer. Enjoy the excitement that your friends share with you. Enjoy every phone call you get to make to announce your engagement. Love it. It goes by all too quickly and you should be able to linger a little in the “happiness bubble” that is a new engagement.

We're Engaged! Now what_

When you’re newly engaged it is easy to be overwhelmed. Take a moment and breathe in the happy.!… Click To Tweet

Step two:
While you’re lingering in the happy bubble, it is a good time to call all your nearest and dearest to spread the news. You don’t want someone you love to have to find out on Facebook that your boyfriend popped the question! Make sure you make a list of those people you’ve called and those you haven’t. (On your real to-do list: Decide if you want to send engagement announcements now, and also if you want something printed in the paper as well. This will give you plenty of time to have engagement photos taken!)

 

engagement photos| What do do first when you're engaged? Step 3:
Then, start dreaming. Buy the magazines and make the Pinterest boards. This part is fun too! Ask your friends for advice. Look through other peoples’ wedding albums and dream. Dream big. Plan your dream wedding, think about all the things you’d do if money were no question and you could do anything. Now is the time for dreaming. You can make all the big decisions in a week or two. For now, you dream. You stroll up the aisle in the hardware store and grab paint chips to see which colors go well together. You make zero decisions and you don’t look at prices. You’re engaged! Take a moment to love this time period in your life.

 

All the other decisions come later.

Right now, right this minute, you relax and you be in love.

 


Colorado natives looking for engagement photos? I know just the photographer! *wink*wink*nudge*nudge*

It’s ENGAGEMENT SEASON!

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Day 12: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Speak Kindly)

Feb 23, 2016 by

Day 12: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Speak Kindly)

Day 12: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Speak Kindly)

Today’s challenge is particularly difficult for me. I decided I needed to do this one over the weekend when I snapped for no reason at my mother-in-law.

So, Today I challenge you to focus your energy on speaking kindly.

It happened like this: we took my sweet mother-in-law (Now when I say sweet I really do mean sweet, she used to be a preschool teacher!) to an old mining town in Colorado for the afternoon. The old building facades are still in place, you can even see some of the original signage and billboards. Its quaint, and pretty, and looks like I imagine it did during the gold rush. The main street of town is full of gorgeous, original architectural details and the view is amazing. From the top of town, one can see two separate mountain ranges and several small villages.

The town houses about seven small casino/hotels and a few little museums meant to lure in tourists. We happened upon the town on a weekend they were holding their very cool, annual Ice Festival. The streets were blocked off by the local police and artists we carving life-sized sculptures of horses and wagons into large blocks of ice. The street vendors were in full swing selling all kinds of crafts and food, a band played, and streets were packed with happy people. It was a perfect, idyllic, mountain day. Sun was shining, beer was flowing, life was good.

We walked by a small casino which still had signs above its door proclaiming it to be a saloon and restaurant. My MIL exclaimed in surprise when we walked by “Wow, that’s not a restaurant! It’s a casino.” To which we all nodded.

Moments after that we walked by a souvenir shop. Its stairs were lined with t-shirts and hoodies, postcards, and knickknacks. Inside we could spot rows and rows of other kitschy goodies that you could bring home in remembrance of your trip. The peeling and weatherworn sign above the door announced: General Store. “Now, is that really a store?” My MIL asked.

Does it look like a store?” I snapped in reply.

……. I’m not nice.

I find myself being snappy, and snarky and sarcastic more than I would like to admit. The worst part is that I adore my in-laws. They love me, they are kind, they are fun to be around…and she did not deserve my attitude in that moment. Yet, often I can feel my sarcasm ready to pounce at the slightest provocation.

I think part of the problem is that I often fail to be kind when I am also in a bad mood. (Or if I’m hungry!) it is never a good idea to combine bad words with bad moods! I find myself laughing at other people’s misfortune, and saying unkind things. I’m pretty sure that sometimes I can be really hurtful!

Today let’s encourage each other to pay extra attention to the way we speak! #speakkindly… Click To Tweet

Today let’s encourage each other to pay extra attention to the way we speak, the words we use to convey messages and our tone of voice. Are we praising others when we speak or judging them? Are we using lies or exaggeration or do we focus energy on building one another up?

Be mindful and loving with your words today friends and #spreadlovelikejelly.

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Speak Kindly

 


Did you miss the beginning of this series? Not sure what I’m talking about or why? Pop back over to the instructions page to see the brain child behind #spreadlovelikejelly

Day 1: Love yourself

Day 2: Compliment Someone

Day 3: Send a handwritten note

Day 4: Writing Challenge

Day 5: Have Patience

Day 6: It’s the Little Things

Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

Day 8: Speak Love

Day 9: Find Inspiration

Day 10: Choose Love

Day 11: Put Others First


“Nothing can make our lives, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.” –Tolstoy

 

 

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Day 10: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Choose Love)

Feb 21, 2016 by

Day 10: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Choose Love)

Day 10: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Choose Love)

I don’t know about you but my Sunday often starts like this:

Wake up. Mind races. Why didn’t my alarm go off? Oh. It’s Sunday. I’ve got three hours before church. So much to do today. So tired. So tired. Five more minutes of sleepy time. SHIT. I’ve got an hour before church. Why hasn’t my husband picked up any of his clothes? Seriously? No hot water. Awesome. I’ve got to prep some stuff for lunch this week.  Why do none of my pants fit? What did my husband do with the car keys? I’ve got to get new pants. But really though, where are the car keys? SHIT. We’re gonna be late for church.

Then, I start to get a little irritated. I MUST have some coffee… and suddenly I find myself griping at my husband for things that do not really matter…

So today, I challenge you to CHOOSE LOVE. #spreadlovelikejelly Click To Tweet

Strive to just start your day with love. Choose to have an outlook that is loving and not one that is accusatory. For me, that looks like a prayer. First thing in the morning, before I get to the “SHIT” part in my brain-rant I need to pray about it. It looks a little like this: “Lord, today I want to start my day with love. I know I don’t have all my shit together, (yes sometimes I curse in my conversations with God, he gets me) but I am thankful for this day, I am grateful for my wonderful husband. Help me put one foot in front of the other today and greet my loved ones with love. Help me to smile and let things go. Allow me to give myself and my loved ones grace. Help me choose love. If you could also help the radio DJ put upbeat and happy songs on the radio that would help immensely. And green lights. Green lights on the way to church. Thank you. I love you.  AMEN.”

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#spreadlovelikejelly CHOOSE LOVE


Did you miss the beginning of this series? Not sure what I’m talking about or why? Pop back over to the instructions page to see the brain child behind #spreadlovelikejelly

Day 1: Love yourself

Day 2: Compliment Someone

Day 3: Send a handwritten note

Day 4: Writing Challenge

Day 5: Have Patience

Day 6: It’s the Little Things

Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

Day 8: Speak Love

Day 9: Find Inspiration


“Nothing can make our lives, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.” –Tolstoy

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