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What are you waiting for?

Sep 2, 2016 by

What are you waiting for?

Being pregnant has been, far and away, the most life changing event in my life. Working through the days, weeks and months without my husband’s help has led to a ton of self-sufficiency I did not know I had. Some days I feel like a super hero, others more like a wimp. But mostly, I feel like I have been plunged into an alternate reality where sleep doesn’t happen, cake is perfect breakfast food and I’ve forgotten how to relate well to others. This is especially true when it comes to interactions with strangers. I feel like I should be handing out pamphlets to strangers explaining why it is not ok to spontaneously rub my tummy or why they maybe should keep their terrifying war/birthing story to themselves. (I’d rather go in blind, thank you very much).

Everyone. EVERYONE. Everyone wants to know how I’m feeling. I can’t decide if they want to hear “I’m great, thank you”, or if they really want to know that I have a giant gas bubble in my abdomen that will not move and I’m afraid will erupt at an inopportune moment. Any. Minute. Now.  Obviously, my friends and family are genuinely concerned. It’s those other people who are the problem. Some people, I think, are truly interested in hearing all the gory details about my current size (whale) and symptoms (exhaustion) so that they can offer all their unsolicited advice.

So, they press for information. “Craving anything?” –Nope.  “How are your ankles? Your feet? Swollen yet?” –Nope.  “You’re having a girl? Is your face breaking out? You know they steal your beauty!” –Nope. People in grocery store check-out lines are always the worst. I don’t know what it is about the grocery store. It’s always there I get the most ridiculous remarks: “Just wait till you see how bad your stretch marks are!” “Enjoy her now, just wait till she’s up all night crying!” But nowhere is safe. I get unsolicited advice in line at the coffee shop, when I’m walking my dogs, and at the post office too. Last week, at the post office a woman congratulated me on having the nerve to be single and having a baby (my wedding band no longer fits on my swollen fingers), but then chastised me over driving a pick-up truck because “Where did I plan to put the car seat?” She left me, smiling to herself and said, “Just wait for the terrible twos! You’ll wish you had a partner then.”  Ugh.

It’s funny because when I googled “unsolicited pregnancy advice” there are hundreds of pages featuring women complaining about this same thing. How do we not understand this then? All the new mothers out there were recently pregnant mommies-to-be, logic insists that they should then understand the complexities of being pregnant and the rules surrounding speaking to pregnant people! Right? Am I missing something?

My pregnancy is a happy one. We tried for a long while to get to this point. We dealt with our fair share of heartbreak before happy news and two pink lines. So, when someone tells me to “just wait: it gets worse”, I kinda want to sucker punch them in the throat. It’s almost like people are surprised that I’m not miserable, or they’re slightly disappointed I’m not uncomfortable. Don’t get me wrong: there are definitely bad days, it’s not all sunshine and roses. But, its still pretty damn amazing.

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“Just wait” they say. You know what it is I am waiting for?

That moment when my poor, sweet husband has to see his 7 month pregnant wife for the first time in real life, and not make a horrible face!

The first time my husband can put his hand on my tummy and feel his daughter kick. (She’s got good rhythm and a particular affinity for James Taylor.)

I’ll “just wait” until my husband is here to rub those inevitable swollen feet for me, while we re watch Disney movies to ensure we are up to date on all things kid related. (I still haven’t seen that frog one.)

I’ll wait until I can have that first glass of red wine after nine months of sobriety. Did I say glass? I meant bottle.

I’m perfectly happy to “just wait” for that moment when we suddenly realize we’re officially a family of three… or the first time she smiles at her daddy. I’m so excited to see the amazing father my husband will become.

The rest of all that nonsense? That’s just part of the journey and some things are totally worth waiting for.

 

 

 

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Hello Again!

Jul 31, 2016 by

Hello Again!

As I’m sure you can see, the summer got away from me and I took some time off from the blog. Mostly because I traveled A LOT! (More on that to come!)  I wanted to appreciate each moment and not be caught behind my computer screen. I was able to spend some time with my grandparents, distract myself from hubby’s deployment and deal with some life changing things going on in our world.

So, this particular post has to be one of the most emotional and wonderful blogs I have EVER written…. because it’s about time we share our happy news with you.   This blog and its followers has become more than just a community of army wives and teachers, it has become an extension of my life. Your love, support, questions, worries, and shared frustrations have lifted my spirits so many times. You’ve supported me during some of the crazy heartbreak along this pathway to motherhood, and so–it is with overwhelming joy and tears streaming down my face that I get to tell you WE ARE GOING TO BE PARENTS!

Love the Everyday: Pregnancy Announcement with pets www.lovetheeveryday.com

I want to close by saying thank you to all of you who have supported us (and me for so so soooo long). We love you guys and are so grateful to share this experience with you. I plan to recap the first trimester in a future blog post, to be able to share with you the ups and downs of pregnancy and all the emotions that go with pregnancy after miscarriage. But at the same time, I hope to remain sensitive to those of you who are still trying, and still waiting on motherhood. My prayers and thoughts are constantly with you, and I hope to be able to celebrate your joy in the very near future.

 

 

 

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First steps for the newly engaged: Where to begin?

Mar 7, 2016 by

First steps for the newly engaged: Where to begin?

“We are officially engaged!!! Now what?”

When I received the long-awaited phone call this weekend from my dear friend announcing that she and her high school sweetheart were finally engaged I was jump-up-and-down excited. Her voice was happy on the phone when she was telling me her news and then shifted to nervous confusion when she added: “I don’t know what to do now”.

Oh,this is the simple part! And the fun part!

Step one:
Enjoy. Bask. Stare at your ring. Hold hands with your honey. Make diamond sparkles on the ceiling of the car as you drive. Take selfies. Imagine your honeymoon. Enjoy the moment. These early, blissful moments as you prepare to start the planning process are fleeting and rare and beautiful. Embrace them. Take a week or two and just let the idea of marriage simmer. Enjoy the excitement that your friends share with you. Enjoy every phone call you get to make to announce your engagement. Love it. It goes by all too quickly and you should be able to linger a little in the “happiness bubble” that is a new engagement.

We're Engaged! Now what_

When you’re newly engaged it is easy to be overwhelmed. Take a moment and breathe in the happy.!… Click To Tweet

Step two:
While you’re lingering in the happy bubble, it is a good time to call all your nearest and dearest to spread the news. You don’t want someone you love to have to find out on Facebook that your boyfriend popped the question! Make sure you make a list of those people you’ve called and those you haven’t. (On your real to-do list: Decide if you want to send engagement announcements now, and also if you want something printed in the paper as well. This will give you plenty of time to have engagement photos taken!)

 

engagement photos| What do do first when you're engaged? Step 3:
Then, start dreaming. Buy the magazines and make the Pinterest boards. This part is fun too! Ask your friends for advice. Look through other peoples’ wedding albums and dream. Dream big. Plan your dream wedding, think about all the things you’d do if money were no question and you could do anything. Now is the time for dreaming. You can make all the big decisions in a week or two. For now, you dream. You stroll up the aisle in the hardware store and grab paint chips to see which colors go well together. You make zero decisions and you don’t look at prices. You’re engaged! Take a moment to love this time period in your life.

 

All the other decisions come later.

Right now, right this minute, you relax and you be in love.

 


Colorado natives looking for engagement photos? I know just the photographer! *wink*wink*nudge*nudge*

It’s ENGAGEMENT SEASON!

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Day 20: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Share the Movement and Celebrate Love)

Mar 4, 2016 by

Day 20: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Share the Movement and Celebrate Love)

Day 20: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge

(Share the Movement and Celebrate Love)

After TWENTY days of challenging myself to #spreadlovelikejelly and working on reinforcing the ideas of love and kindness in my life, I realize that in doing so I have become happier as a result. There is something about doing an act of service or kindness for another person that just makes your own life infinitely better. I’ve reflected on a bunch of things lately and come to a few really important conclusions.

  • When I’m nicer, other people are nicer too. Love has some really amazing powers! That’s pretty great when days just roll along like conveyor belts of kindness, one right after another.
  • I’m happier when I focus on being loving toward my husband. We both laugh more, and fight so much less. When I am thinking of ways to make him happy I am, in turn, making myself happy.
  • All this love going around makes me kinder and more patient with my students.
  • Blogging about it every day allows me to be more reflective in all areas of my life. I really loved going back and reading some of my older blog posts about when I was serving with AmeriCorps to reflect on the ways that we spread love as a team.
  • It’s really fun to tell people you love them.

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Today, I challenge you to continue the movement. Share the hashtag #spreadlovelikejelly. Share a blog post. Research other ways to be kind. (Start Here). (Or even HERE). Share it on Twitter or Instagram. Reflect on your own lives, where can you be more loving? Pin it and share on Pinterest. Be a champion for kindness. Comment on someone’s blog. Leave a message for a loved one on Facebook. Share. Spread. Choose Love.


 

Did you miss the beginning of this series? Not sure what I’m talking about or why? Pop back over to the instructions page to see the brain child behind #spreadlovelikejelly

Day 1: Love yourself

Day 2: Compliment Someone

Day 3: Send a handwritten note

Day 4: Writing Challenge

Day 5: Have Patience

Day 6: It’s the Little Things

Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

Day 8: Speak Love

Day 9: Find Inspiration

Day 10: Choose Love

Day 11: Put Others First

Day 12: Speak Kindly

Day 13: Be Present

Day 14: Feel the Love

Day 15: Love Your Pets

Day 16: Embrace God’s Love

Day 17: Leap Day Love

Day 18: Grant Grace

Day 19: Tell Someone


“Nothing can make our lives, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.” –Tolstoy

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Day 19: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Tell someone!) | Say I love you

Mar 3, 2016 by

Day 19: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Tell someone!) | Say I love you

Day 19: Spread Love Like Jelly Challenge (Tell someone!)

Today is easy.   Today is important.  Today is fun.

 

 

On the almost-last-day of the #spreadlovelikejelly challenge I am prompting you to make sure that you tell the people in your life that you love them.

Tell your mom. Call grandma. Tell your coworkers and your former teachers and your baby sitter. Send an email to the lady who was the secretary of your first job, tell her she made your day every morning. Tell the person who walks your dog and your sunday school teacher. Tell them, tell them, tell them! Tell them so that they can reciprocate. Tell them because it feels good. Tell them because life is short and love is sweet. Tell them because one day you’ll be sorry that you didn’t.

I’m going to share my list of people. The ones who I plan to make it a priority to tell that I LOVE THEM this week. I’m going to make a list for next week too!  Its going to take a few days to check people off, but I’ll work on it over the upcoming weekend. I encourage you to make your list too. Treat it like a check list and tell them how much they matter. Start. Start right now. #spreadlove

#spreadlove #spreadlovelikejelly Tell people you love them while you can.

  • My mom who is awesome in all ways
  • My grandparents who can take credit for most of what I know about life
  • My little sister who has so much life to figure out
  • My nieces who should be told every day how fiercely they are loved
  • My assistant teacher who works her butt off for me and our students
  • My 1st boyfriend Joe, who taught me what it means to love someone
  • My step-siblings who have accepted me as one of them
  • My students, who need so much love
  • My 5th grade teacher who inspired me
  • The ladies in my bible study who have become my family
  • My best friend Kate
  • My husband who puts up with all of my nonsense
  • My cousins who were my very first friends
  • My best buddies from high school who supported me through all the awkward that is adolescence
  • My coworkers who are like sisters
  • My aunts and uncles
  • My little brother who has always been one of my favorite people
  • My bridesmaids who are amazing
  • My college roommates
  • …the list goes on.
Tell the people in your life that you love them. Tell them right now! #spreadlove #sayIloveyou… Click To Tweet

Who will you tell today? Who will you tell tomorrow? Who will you tell every day?

Go on! Get started and #spreadlovelikejelly.


 

Did you miss the beginning of this series? Not sure what I’m talking about or why? Pop back over to the instructions page to see the brain child behind #spreadlovelikejelly

Day 1: Love yourself

Day 2: Compliment Someone

Day 3: Send a handwritten note

Day 4: Writing Challenge

Day 5: Have Patience

Day 6: It’s the Little Things

Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

Day 8: Speak Love

Day 9: Find Inspiration

Day 10: Choose Love

Day 11: Put Others First

Day 12: Speak Kindly

Day 13: Be Present

Day 14: Feel the Love

Day 15: Love Your Pets

Day 16: Embrace God’s Love

Day 17: Leap Day Love

Day 18: Grant Grace


“Nothing can make our lives, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.” –Tolstoy

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